Speed dating disabled people
Countless numbers of disabled people have formed successful relationships, from quick shags to long-term bliss.” Taking the first step to leave the house and go and meet new people isn’t always easy.
Many people complain about never meeting someone, when their average week consists of watching TV, playing computer games, and going to the pub once a week. Arts Line has lots of venue information for places to visit in London, and it’s worth using the internet to find local guides across the UK,” says Penny.
It can be all too easy to use your disability as a comfort-blanket by telling yourself you can’t chat someone up because you’re in a wheelchair – it may actually be because you, like many people, feel shy and need some tips on how to boost your pulling confidence. If you’ve been rejected before, it may make you afraid of making sexual approaches again for fear of facing more rejection.
Tom Coogan, who has a curved spine, says: “I have lots of great female friends, but I’m very aware that to many of them I’m almost like a gay male friend and completely off the sexual radar.
There are lots of disabilities listed on this site.
Smile, listen more than you talk, prompt other people to talk about themselves, and make an effort with your appearance.
‘Dating and disability’ are two words that are rarely seen together: all too many people assume that just because someone is physically or mentally different, they lack the desire to fall in love or have sex.
Sadly, we live in a culture in which pressure to be ‘perfect’ is rife, which can make it all too easy to believe that disability equals sexual exclusion.
If you believe you’re inferior, you’ll be perceived that way: but if you think about what maintains a relationship after initial attraction, it’s more likely to be a great sense of humour, thoughtfulness or a sense of adventure, than a ‘perfect’ outer form.
So don’t define yourself by your disability; it’s only one part of you.
Penny Pepper, author of Desires, an erotica anthology about disabled people, sex and relationships, says: “Disabled people are fed an idea of being inferior, especially by modern media, which values and reinforces artificially created ideas of physical perfection.